Change and Authenticity
As a Life Coach, I have realised the importance of how we construct meaning and how two people can use the same word but mean completely different things. In a session with a client some time ago, I sensed him resisting any ideas on change. This was despite him being in considerable emotional distress and wanting to find better coping mechanisms. After trying several angles to encourage change, without success, I asked him about his resistance to making any adjustments to his views or behaviours. Which is when I discovered that he viewed the idea of change as tantamount to giving up his...
Read MoreWhat is acceptance really?
Acceptance clearly does not need to mean the same as being passive. It simply means that I can save myself the energy expenditure on futile emotion and use my energy to find alternative options.
Read MoreWanting The Perfect Plan Can Keep Us Stuck
When we apply machine-like expectations of ourselves, we run the risk of becoming paralysed by the need for perfection. I encountered a young person at that particularly challenging time in life when one must step out of schooling into the rest of one’s life. He was completely stuck because he expected to have a fully formed life plan that would guarantee success and tell him what the next step much be. And, as a result, he could not move forward because he had no plan! With hardly any life experience, having functioned in a fully structured, prescriptive, educational system for more than a...
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